Sunday 20 December 2015

sustaining a tie that bonds...


There have been many tips and tricks from elders, experienced people and even google on how to survive a marriage. From submission and sacrifice to magic and special prayers you have it all! However, unlike before, the ways of life are changing. Women especially, are being empowered and more exposed, making it increasingly difficult to adjust to the traditional norm of sacrifice and utter devotion.

In accordance with today's times, I believe the key to any successful marriage is tolerance. Whatever situation arises, it is always tolerance that is tested.

We may not be the ideal spouse and vice-versa, but letting go and overlooking the minor flaws is very important. This is where tolerance comes in. By cutting down on the extra drama and calmly considering  each others viewpoint, we exhibit tolerance. This is not only a way of accepting your partner as a complete package of pluses and minuses, it is also a way of understanding that nothing is picture perfect.

By being tolerant, as a wife, you may just save yourself from uttering unthankfulness or showing unrequired disrespect. As a husband, being tolerant might stop you from committing an atrocious act of physical abuse and instead make you understand your wife better.

Marriage in today's highly competitive and self-centered times, is one of the most tested relations and the way to sail through it is by giving a little more to each other. So try a little tolerance and at the end of the day, you will get a lot of much needed emotional support and a peaceful happy place called home :)


36 comments:

foodlvr said...

Very nice, to the point and short.

Unknown said...

Tolerance/compassion, it's exactly what we need in marriage and in the world. Thank you for this lovely post!

Unknown said...


I agree, letting go and tolerance are so important!

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Unknown said...

Very well said ....but still old norms are the best to survive..being tolerant n give time to marriage is the key of happy married life.

Unknown said...

Working on tolerance since a few months! Especially after having kids and losing on some of the independence and freedom , tolerance is something which has been depleting with every counting day! Thanks for the reminder!

Unknown said...

Being tolerant & thankful, giving respect and letting go of the minor flaws in your other half is the key to a healthy relation.....be it marriage or any other relation. :)

Unknown said...

hang in there taz dear..love ya 😙

Unknown said...

thankuuu humeira jaani

Unknown said...

yes boss..thankuu :)

Unknown said...

done dear :)

Unknown said...

most welcome dear :)

Unknown said...

thanku :)

Unknown said...

Anyway....u have described it beautifully :)

Umme Hafsa said...

Tolerance and letting go is so important for any relationship to thrive... great post :)

n said...

Not yet married but these lessons are gems to remember! Thanks!

Indfused said...

So well said and to the point! Great post!

Eugenia said...

You’re right! I would add to this understanding and respect

Unknown said...

agree eugenia :)

Unknown said...

thanku sandhya :)

Unknown said...

thanku umme hafsa...:)

Unknown said...

whenever it happens, may it b the best of your times in sha Allah :)

Anonymous said...

That's so true :/ sometimes a spouse expects the other to do some things he won't be able to do if it was the other way around. Also communication as well, use good words instead of beating or insulting :)

Unknown said...

So true and great post tho :)

Myda tahir said...

Hena,
Marriage is 50% luck and 50% devotion.
Wishing all a happy and peaceful married life.

Eat Healthy Stay Healthy :)

Myda Tahir
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CREATIVE KHADIJA said...

Interesting! Tolerance is the key to success indeed!

Unknown said...

Great gems.

Indeed, we need tolerance in every facet of our lives... and tolerance begins from deep within.

Zainab Dokrat said...

Beautiful post, learnt from it. Especially since I'm not married yet, so wise words for the future. :)

Famidha Ashraf said...

tolerance is the word... its a thin line between being patient and being tolerant. with one, you are expecting a change, with the other you accept the reality and learn to live with it in a way that is best for you.

Unknown said...

Agree. Tolerance, patience and compromise are the 3 things that are needed

Simple Mama At Home said...

Beautiful advice for any marriage. Nobody is perfect nor is any marriage perfect. We all have weaknesses and ways that irritate one another. Tolerance is definitely a must in any marriage.

Unknown said...

thanku everybdy..:)

Unknown said...

:-)

Unknown said...

:-)

Unknown said...

Great reminders Sis! Thank you!

Unknown said...

Great reminders Sis! Thank you!

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